It’s Just A Blog

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In the last year and a half of blogging I’ve seen a lot of blogs come and go. The ones that always amaze me are the bloggers who literally explode onto the scene. Within months they’re buddy-buddy with a couple of “big” bloggers, they’ve got tons of followers, and they seem to know all the lingo and shit that it took me a year to figure out. But sometimes just as quickly, they burn out. And I’m always puzzled…why?

The thing about blogging is this: it takes time. Time out of your day that you might otherwise be spending with friends, family, or doing something others might deem more productive. If I added up all of the time I’ve spent writing nearly 400 blog posts at say one hour per post, well I’ve spent nearly a full 15 days of my life blogging. It really makes you think: What are you giving up to be a blogger?

My work hours are very conducive to blogging. I get up at 7:30am with N and he’s out the door and by 8am me and Archie are chillin on the couch enjoying some DVR’ed goodness and blogging. I don’t have to be to work til 11am but I get up early to see N off and then write my feelings/thoughts/opinions on the interwebs for the world to see. Actually now that I put it that way, I sound crazy. Maybe I should be taking advantage of my amazing work schedule and sleep in. But I don’t, because I get more out of blogging than I do out of sleeping in those extra two hours.

When I do have days or even weeks where I have morning commitments and have to blog at night, I never want to. I would rather hang out with N than blog. I would rather tell Archie that he is cute 400 times while playing fetch than blog. I’d rather talk to Kaylin on the phone, cook a mediocre-at-best dinner for me and N, and even some days go to the gym, than blog. Why? It’s just a blog. It isn’t my life. It isn’t my #1 or even my #5 priority. It is absolutely something I love and will continue to do (and attempt to do well!) but it will never be something I prioritize in a major way. It’s a hobby. I take it seriously, but I think many times we all need to step back and remember what’s important. After all, if you aren’t living your life, what on earth are you going to blog about?

This post was inspired by a conversation I had with Lisette as we were working through my Blogger to WordPress transfer. She told me, “I can’t believe how laid-back you are about this whole thing. I could hug you.” Well since that’s pretty much the only time I’ve ever been called laid-back, it thrilled me to tears. But I also gave myself a little pat on the back. Because my very first thought to respond to her was this: It’s just a blog. If my blog went down for a whole day, week, or month, what would happen? Nothing.

Blogs can influence opinions, help you figure out what products to buy, teach you cool stuff, they can help you feel more normal (everyone else is crazy too!?), cope with where you are in your life (the mid-twenties are awkward, people), and a whole bunch of other wonderful things. We aren’t curing cancer here (I’d know, because if you did you would put me out of a job, which I’d really love), we aren’t changing the world in a major way, and blogs aren’t all that important, in the grande scheme of things.

I don’t mean to downplay our role in each others lives. We are strangely important to each other. But blogging cannot replace the good stuff in life. It’s a place to share the good stuff. That’s blogging as I see it.

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  • What a great post, and so true. I was speaking with a friend about this the other day and she is realizing that there are other things she would rather do than blog – it’s just too much. I think the keeping up with everyone else mentality – post five times a week, email every commenter back, and comment on as many blogs as possible – is what burns people out on the hobby so fast. I think we’re doing it to ourselves and honestly, I wish we would all remember that it is supposed to be a fun hobby and no apologies are necessary when we get busy living life rather than documenting it!

  • I’ve seen 5 bloggers leave in the last month. FIVE! It became too much for them and interfering with their lives. In my opinion, I think the only way it would really get to be too much -for me- is taking on too many sponsors. It’s not written in stone that I have to make 5 posts a week, I just post when I have something to say. But if you have a bunch of people who paid you for spotlights and giveaways, I can imagine that could get overwhelming. I agree with you, for most of us, it really is just a blog (awesome blogs though because we’ve all connected in some way and made friends and have so much fun on twitter!). The only people it’s not “just a blog” too, are the ones that are so big that blogging is their main and only source of income, that’s their job.

  • such a necessary reminder and SO true!

  • I love this post! That is why I don’t focus on numbers and sponsoring. I want to enjoy my little space on the interwebz and it not become a chore! I love interacting with bloggers throughout the day and sharing some of my thoughts and life so that I can look back on it down the road. Plus, you have a point with products, inspiration and recipes you gain from other bloggers too! A great reminder!

  • I have suffered blogger burnout so many times. Each time I return I come back with more parameters on how I do things, and I feel like it has taken me years to find my comfort zone. You are right it is easy to get caught up in it all, you could spend all day and all night and never keep up. Great post and a great reminder.

  • I LOVE this. I am reminded of this daily, when I have to intentionally be proactive with the blog :). I love it – but you are right, it is just a blog!

    Thanks for the encouragement!
    Ginny

  • I agree with you completely. Blogging is awesome.. but it isn’t everything. We have to remember that sometimes!

  • I completely agree with a lot of things you post about! It’s so true that yes its just a blog but sometimes I do consider it to be like a child, or an extra credit class for me because of all the time I put into it. I’m glad I found a hobby like this but you are right we often worry too much as to what if we go MIA for a week. but it’s a-okay…it’ll be here in the morning!

  • Nadine, I love this! I think you hit the nail on the head. I’m a long time reader, few time commenter (note to self: I need to get better at it). I just love this post so much!

  • Thanks so much for this post! I have been blogging for a few months and find that lately I am concerned with numbers, sponsorships, and connecting constantly. I am starting to forget why I started my blog in the first place. It is so easy to be overwhelmed by it all and I understand why so many people get burnt out by it! Thanks again!

  • Caitlin

    I 100% agree with this post. I blog because I like to blog – and I never feel pressure to blog. If I can’t get to it for a couple of days – so be it. Blogging shouldn’t be stressful!

  • I totally agree! I don’t make money off my blog at all – I’ve never run adspace or had a paid sponsor or anything like that, so I really get nothing from it. I do get products for free to review sometimes, so I guess I can’t say I get NOTHING.
    But it really does take time out of your life to blog. I do alot of my brainstorming at work (shh) but then to sit down, write a post, edit it, edit/add pictures, etc is dedication. I do it because it makes me happy to write, to reach out to people I’d never really know before I started my blog. And it makes me feel good. 🙂

    <3
    carelessly graceful

  • Love this post. I blog kind of just for me so I have something to look back on. I don’t take sponsors and don’t do giveaways. And i like it that way. Mostly because I just like having memories and meeting amazing girls. 🙂 plus i love posting pictures of my dog. 😉

  • I couldn’t agree more. I sometimes fall into the trap of comparing myself to bigger bloggers who have 50+ comments on every blog post and thousands of followers, but I quickly have a change of heart when I remind myself I wouldn’t ever want that kind of responsibility. While I do enjoy blogging, you can bet I will put most other activities ahead of it if I had to choose. Great post. Thanks for sharing!

  • 🙂 Laid Back is the best compliment one can receive in regards to so many things!

  • I love this post! Thanks for keeping it real! I hung out with some friends last night and as a result, no blog post today. I used to beat myself up about it but like you said…it’s just a blog! Cheers!

  • I love this post. I’ve been in the blogging game for less than a year and already I’ve seen so many blogs come and go. And while it’s sad, I get it. There is so much to get ‘caught up’ in and at the end of the day we forget it really is just a blog.

  • I really needed to read a post like this! I am definitely guilty of pushing myself too hard and burning out or dedicating too much time to blogging. I think it’s because there is a whole other side to blogging if you choose to delve into it… in fact there’s many! There’s the bloggers who take on ecourses, graphic designing, guest posting, etc. and I think that’s when it can all get out of control.

    I am inspired to go and make myself a schedule I can stick to! Thanks for this 🙂

  • I love this post. I’ve been blogging now for a little over two years, and I’m in the middle of a serious burnout. I think I had lost sight of why I started blogging in the first place with all the pressure that seems to come along with is and all the exploding newbies. Thanks for the reminder!

  • This is how I feel too, but then again I don’t make money off my blog, it is literally just somewhere to share my travels and life with people, and I love reading blogs and connecting to people. I don’t think I’ll ever open it up to sponshorships because to be honest I don’t want to feel the pressure. I’m not trying to be a professional writer, I just like writing about what I do. And you’re right, to do that you’ve got to disconnect and get out and live, so you’ve got something to write about and show later 🙂

  • YES! I totally agree with this. A hobby should never be something that you stress about. If I don’t feel like writing or have nothing to say, I don’t worry about it and I go play outside. I love reading your blog. It’s one of my favorites and this post is one of the reasons – I feel like you’re very genuine. Bravo.

  • Oh my goodness, this is so true! I have seen too many bloggers leave and I just don’t understand why. I have been at this for a LONG time and I love it. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Is it work? Yes. But I do enjoy it. I don’t always comment on other blogs like I should and I don’t always get on Twitter and Facebook like I should either…but I don’t care. I do this for me and I am happy with it. I really do think I am going to step back a bit and only blog when I have something worth saying. But who knows if that will really happen.

  • So true girl! Sometimes I have to take a step back and just say live. Because that’s what life is about!

  • This is such a great way to look at things!!

    Kristin
    crumbsandcurls.blogspot.com

  • i just started my blog and i think i really needed to post. Sometimes we take things a little too seriously sometimes. Great post!

  • Love this! I think people can get a little caught up in the numbers game. I blog for fun and I love to see and read about how other people are doing things. It’s nice to have a bunch of different perspectives!

  • So true and sometimes hard to remember. But life won’t end if you don’t blog for a week and hey when that happens you usually have more to blog about the next time 🙂

  • Love this post! It is so true! I was just thinking about this same stuff. I was out of town over the weekend and felt bad I didn’t post anything for 4 days. I actually started my post with “sorry it’s been so quiet around here”. I deleted that before I published it, though, because I thought why should I apologize for getting out there and enjoying my family and free time? You’re so right that a blog is a place to share the good stuff. I do love it and take it seriously, but I need to keep your laid back attitude:)

  • I’ve struggled with the same thing lately. I’ve been blogging for awhile and feel like I’m just now starting to get the hang of it…or the “business” of getting yourself out there. And then someone else starts up brand new and just excels with followers and comments and collabs and I just feel lost. Then I have to remind myself why I started blogging, think about what I get from it, and realize at the end of the day, you’re exactly right- it’s just a blog. The pressure is only there because I put it there. Great post!

  • First off.. your coffee mug is amazing! So cute and I want one 😀

    Secondly, I love this post. I’ve noticed quite a few bloggers that I absolutely adore throwing in the towel on blogging because they have been putting so much into it that they forget to ‘live’ their life. I definitely can’t say I blame them, because there have been times that I sat back and thought ‘I am spending so much time blogging that I am ignoring my family and other priorities’. There has also been days that I just don’t blog because I have more important things going on. After all, it really is just a blog.

  • Totally love it . It’s true that our life is what the priorities should be , blogging is a hobby . It should be fun , way to communicate and share stuff but nothing else ( that oftenly goes in comparison) . I’ve heard this big blogger buddies term , but I find it ridiculous. If two people like to talk and share ideas , it surely doesn’t mean a flattering. Phew!
    Ps: this mug is so cute . Legally a dog mom.

  • You’re right, Nadine. It’s just a blog. But there’s something about reading people’s blogs that are so sincere thats inspiring. Every time you post I sincerely get excited to read what you have to say. I have learned so much about blogging from you. I’ve also learned about friendships, love and how much I freaking want an adorable dog. And by want I mean need. You rock and I hope that your blog lives on forever. Until then I’ll continue to enjoy it post by post.

    xo fal • falfindshappiness.blogspot.com

  • I LOVE THIS! I started my blog as a hobby as well, a creative outlet for myself. I love it, and have met wonderful people, but it’s not my life. I have a full time job, and prefer spending my evenings with Andrew rather than blogging, so I find other time to get my blog posts written, and don’t worry too much if I miss a day. But it is hard not to put pressure on yourself. I try to remember why I started this blog, and look at how far I’ve come. Even if I don’t have a ton of followers, there has been slow and steady growth. And I’ve met some amazing friends too! I really enjoyed reading this 🙂

  • This is a great post! So right on point, so perfectly presented.. I have often struggled with feelings of wanting to be a “big” blogger, and to have all kinds of followers, and have a bunch of people really really interested in what I’m going to say.. But then I realized that a.) the only person about whose interest I should be concerned is my own, and b.) if I keep that thought in my mind, and write when I *want* to write, instead of when I feel like I *should* write, I’ll have better content, and I’ll be more proud of what I’m doing. And then whether or not people join me doesn’t matter, because it shouldn’t really be about everyone else anyway, at least not when blogging is just a hobby, and not a job.

  • Thanks for this post. As a a newbie on the blogging scene I often wonder if I’m doing the right thing, posting about the right stuff – but at the end of the day I write for fun. No pressure 🙂

  • I love this post. I totally agree 100% with what you said. I am new to the blog world and I have had countless people ask me “why in the world would you do that?” – obviously they aren’t bloggers. It is not a top priority to me but it is something that I absolutely enjoy doing! It’s amazing what you can learn and how you can find other to relate to!!

  • I like this perspective a lot! I never let blogging take first place over commitments that, to me, are more important (i.e. just about everything that’s fun and involves people)…and that’s the way it should be!

  • This is such a fantastic post! I completely agree with everything you’ve said, for me blogging is a hobby and I do it because I want to. It’s great to see that someone with more experience than me still feels that same way, hopefully it means I’m doing it right!

  • So true! I love blogging but I also want to live life! If the blog slides, that’s ok! I’d rather make sure I’m experiencing life!!

  • I totally agree with this 100%!!! My motto is “Live First, Blog Later.” 🙂

  • Katie (@TheStyleDunce)

    Oh my god, yes. I need to figure out a better blogging schedule. I typically blog at night which has the pros of being able to do it with a glass of wine, but I’d also rather be hanging out with my boyfriend or family. Before blogging, I never realized just how much time it takes, since it isn’t just about writing your own posts. Commenting, reading other blogs, keeping up with social media. It could be a full-time job if you let it.

    • One thing that I’ve found helpful is to let go of the schedule. Just live and then share, as Nadine said. Forget how long it’s been since a post, for then you’re living to blog. Don’t fret over it and just share when you want to and only when you want to.

  • Love this post! SO true.. I try not to waste so much time on here. but it can be addicting!

  • Another reason I love blogging. This post makes me feel like I’m not alone in feeling the same way you do!

  • Great Post! So true! I am a brand new blogger, so figuring out how to manage my blogging life and REAL life can be tricky! But like you said, it’s a hobby, and if you don’t live your life, what is there to blog about? 🙂

  • I completely agree… especially about spending time with Derek. If it comes down to him, or time with family, or just doing something else fun, I’m going to choose that over blogging!

  • I agree a million times over! The pressure of “I HAVE to write a post!” can get ridiculous if you let it. That’s no good. I took a pretty long break from blogging just because of moving and feeling like I needed to settle into “my new life” and enjoy it before being able to write about it publicly. Now I feel ready to take it on again and am so glad I made that decision! I love your outlook on this.

  • 100% agree with you!

  • So so so true! This is why during my whole pregnancy/new mama phase I’ve not stressed myself out about keeping things up on my blog. I love writing and want to keep it going, but I’m a little too busy actually living life to post like I would like to. Hopefully when I get into a routine (ha) I’ll get back at 🙂

  • This post tugged at my heartstrings – thanks so much for putting this out there.

    I love blogging and have sacrificed things to keep going, but yeah, sometimes I have to think about my priorities.

  • I am your new follower…really like your blog.

    This is so true:)

  • Great post. I love it especially because it doesn’t sound as though you are belittling successful bloggers (including yourself) but putting things into the right perspective, the right way!

  • E

    Definitely agree! I have a super small following, but that’s not what counts is it? It’s not high school. What counts for me is knowing that if my words can reach just ONE person, I will have made a different for them. But then, of course, there is always the problem with you reach more people with more exposure to your blog, which takes time and effort, which takes away from what you could be doing….

  • This is WONDERFUL. And so, so true. Thanks for writing 🙂

  • I posted this week wondering a lot of the same things. I’ve seen several bloggers fizzle out that started quickly and became huge. I love that you have such a realistic perspective on the blog and how it doesn’t come before your time with the people you care about the most. 🙂

    Thanks for answering a lot of my questions! 🙂

  • You summed up my feelings exactly and where I have now come to approach blogging because, like you, it isn’t even #5 on my list. It is something I enjoy, sure, but I remember when I used to stress about it and it took me years to figure out, some of which I’ve written about, but mostly I learned, that it’s all pretty menial.

  • This is a great post, Nadine! It makes me feel so much better about my month long blogging hiatus. I think it’s perfect that you have time in the morning to blog that isn’t really taking away from anything else. That’s definitely something I lack. But I totally agree – blogging is not necessarily a “good thing” in life, it’s where we can share the good things in life.

  • This is a phenomenal post, it really puts it into perspective!

    xx
    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

  • This is a really good post Nadine and I definitely agree with you!
    Blogging, unless if it is your career, it is a hobby and hobbies shouldn’t affect your actual day to day living… 🙂
    x Nats

  • Yes, yes, and yes!! That’s all!!

  • Beautifully said. I couldn’t agree more!

    x. Sabrina | Simply Sabrina

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you, for sharing this. It is very true. I am thankful for the bits of time where I can relax and blog but that I can also be ready to welcome my husband home in the evening and then just enjoy time with him. I’d rather invest in that relationship any day, but blogging is a great way to relax and keep my other hobbies fresh, so I enjoy it when it’s not competing with the people I love. 🙂

  • I love seeing posts like this from people who do have successful blogs such as yourself! I think blogging is a ton of fun, and it’s helped me expand my personal style a ton, but I’ve sort of lost that dream to have a “huge” blog. And I’m fine with it. I love connecting with new bloggers, but for me blogging takes a back seat to so many things. It makes me feel better reading posts like this- realizing my blogging habits can wax and wane but that doesn’t make me a blogging failure!

    Kaitlin
    http://www.teaandsequins.com

  • I feel like stumbling upon your blog was sort of a divine intervention. I was recently beating myself up for my lack of motivation to blog lately, but what the hell, It’s just a damn blog! lol! Thank you!!!

  • I feel like stumbling upon your blog was sort of a divine intervention. I was recently beating myself up for my lack of motivation to blog lately, but what the hell, It’s just a damn blog! lol! Thank you!!!

  • You’re so right. I came this this realization when I was feeling blue recently. I put myself through such stress trying to pump out posts that I think, Lisette…you really have nothing to say….go outside and enjoy the sunshine. No, really. Step away from the computer.

    P.S. I could seriously hug you. Like, for real. Come visit me in Savannah. We can relive our sorority days. xoxo

  • wow…when i started blogging a year ago i definitelt gave it my all, but in these past months of a “blogging” fail. i relaized it is just a blog and will always be there if i decide to continue it…or not. i like the friendships i have already made, but actually sitting and writing is not my #1 or top 10 priority any more haha

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  • Kym

    THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS! I just saw your favorite posts, post and read this for the first time. I just did finished my Blogger to WP transfer and HA, my post title today is “It’s Just A Freaking Blog” … isn’t it refreshing to have your head back on your shoulders and reminder what’s important in life? Sure, a blog is a grand extension of us, but it’s not US. Loved every word of this, Nadine!

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