How to Successfully Live With Your Boyfriend

 

Naveed and I have been living together for a whopping 7 months. 
That basically makes us experts, right?

 

living with boyfriend
 
Things have been good. Real good. So far he’s getting an A+ at being a roommate. He doesn’t snore (unlike Archie), he’s not a bed hog (unlike Archie), and he is pretty dang fun to have around.

 

Here are some thing’s we’ve figured out work spectacularly well when you live with your significant other:

1. Hold your signifcant other to different standards. That’s right. Are you a total slob? Totally fine. But if your beau leaves his drawers open or his shoes in the middle of the living room, get peeved. Get real peeved.

2. Get a dog and then insist that you are too afraid to go in the backyard at night, thereby making your beau the official nightime dog caregiver.

3. You now have a permanent photographer in your apartment. Ask at the most random/inconvient times if he has time to walk 5 blocks to the park, take 200 pictures of you (for your blog, of course), and then later be told that NONE of them turned out right. Also, occasionally get peeved (isn’t peeved the best word?) that he doesn’t know anything about aperture. 

Okay okay, I’ll get on with the real ones…

1. Make sure you have similar lifestyles. If your a slob, I’m a slob. We’re both slobs (proof). So it works. If you are super clean and your guy is messy? Well, I’m not even sure how that would work. Good luck.

2. Actually like being around each other. A lot. I know couples need time apart. I’m sure it’s healthy. But when my guy left for Mexico for 4 day, I missed him like crazy. I really don’t get sick of him. If you don’t get sick of being around your guy, living together might work for you too.

3. Pick chores and stick to them. I do the laundry. He does the dishes. If one of us starts to suck at our chore, the other one whips them back into shape starts sucking at their chore too and then no one feels guilty about anything. Wait, this might be the reason for #1…

4. Accept that things won’t always be uber romantic and sexy. When you live together, you’ll see your partner at their best and their very worst. Nav got food poisoning a while back. That’s all I’ll say about that.

5. Make each other a priority. Just because you’re in the same house, doesn’t mean you are spending quality time together. If he’s looking at Reddit and you’re blogging, that doesn’t count. Pick things you do together (electronic free) and do them often.

 

That’s about all I got on that folks. 
Now tell me,
What helped you live with your significant other? 
Which adjustments were the most challenging?

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  • I love this post, some good, and comical, advice. Also love the Lily and Marshall vids!
    I’m hoping to move in with my boyfriend in August… I’m really excited, but also a bit apprehensive!
    Victoria
    http://convertednortherner.blogspot.co.uk/

  • This is so funny/true! I’m in the process of looking for apartments with my boyfriend, so this is super helpful!

  • This is a great post! I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 4 years now, and definitely can agree to all of those things! We are both pretty neat people, but I have a tendency to keep a lot of things and causing clutter around the house.. and he gets pretty peeved about that ha ha! I think another super important one is communication! Can never have enough good communication 😀

  • So true lady. So true.

  • Eric is a clean freak. I’m a slob. We make it work. I have a few chores that I’m really good at, and he takes everything else. To make up for it, I handle the grocery shopping & most of the baby related “chores.” We’ve lived together fro 6 years now, so it obviously works.

  • Hahah I make Evan take Bosley out at night too because of “weirdos in SF”. I think all girls are guilty of this.

  • The whole quality time thing is so true!!! After we first got married, I was like, “Awesome! He can come home to our place after work to get changed and eat and stuff like that rather than me having to wait an extra hour after he gets home to see him because he’s doing that at his parent’s house instead.” And then we don’t eat together, or I just say “Hey” and keep blogging or watching my TV show. I am SOOOO bad at this, I need to be better!

    Amberly
    http://amberlyandjoe.blogspot.com

  • Nadine this post is spot on! I’ve been married for 4 years and living with a “boy” is a definite adjustment. I 100% agree with picking chores and sticking to them before you live together–no muss, no fuss. The quality time thing is an issue too. Sometimes we get home late, eat in front of the tv or our laptops, and go to bed. We may as well not live together sometimes because we are just too wound up in our own stuff! We try to make time each week to just be–whether it’s eating dinner at the kitchen table or taking a walk or even running errands. It really helps!
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  • ah, this is fantastic. I’m totally guilty of holding my manfriend to different standards 🙂

  • My boyfriend and I have been living together since July and I love it! Great post. 🙂

  • This is an amazing post!! Hilarious! Also loving the HIMYM gifs. 🙂

  • You are both slobs? That’s awesome. I think you are the only couple I’ve ever heard of where both were either neat or either slobs. It seems like opposites usually end up together and I’ll tell you how that turns out…very frustrating!! I’m neat. The husband is messy. Rough. But I’m learning to deal with him and vice versa.

  • I love that you referenced two of my fave shows in this post! I call Jason my “lobster” all the time:)

  • I really, realllllyyy love this post. My boyfriend and I moving in together at the end of the summer and I’m already worried about the adjustment from girl roommate to live in boyfriend so this was very helpful!

  • Haha. The fights I have had because he DOESN’T KNOW HOW TO FOCUS THE CAMERA!!!!!!!!!! Oh man. I love this. Love it all. 🙂 Dude. The first year Alex and I lived together was by far our worst. Things went uphill after that first year. Even marriage year #1 wasn’t that bad. 🙂

  • One of the hardest things for me was moving into Ben’s house. I felt so uneasy at first because we were having to find places to put my things, and nothing really felt MINE. But Ben made sure that I knew it was now OUR house and that helped. And also just learning each other’s patterns and habits- like sleeping. I love to go to bed early and he loves to stay up late. We’re almost 2 years in to living together and I think we finally have it down.

  • I moved in with my boyfriend the night we met. Literally. We met online, I flew 3500miles to meet him, and then I lived with him for two months. We had talked for 2 years online and we certainly knew a lot about each other but weren’t up to date AT ALL on how we acted in our own space or how we acted in reality at all. We were lucky – we had our moments but we tended to mesh well living together. He is WAYYY too messy though which is something that drove me crazy!!

  • I agree with all of this! My boyfriend and I have been living together for years now, and though we’ve of course had our moments, it’s been pretty great. We’ve even survived having a baby, and now have a 20 month old little boy. I agree that you see each other at your very worst, but that just means you’ll know each other better than anyone else. I STILL love being around him. Great post!

    Erika

  • I love love LOVE that episode of Friends!

  • 1. Steve and i decided immediately that I would cook and he would do dishes. I would fold and he would hang up clothes. it’s necessary to decide these things
    2. I’m convinced that Steve and I are almost Lilly and Marshall, but I think every cute couple thinks that!

  • Keke

    This really gave me hope. I thought I should read up on somethings before boyfriend and I move in together and everything I read was negative and saying don’t do it. Not taking in any circumstances (mines being that my mom is kicking me out the house…long story) So as you can see this was the best decision we could come to. I’m happy that it is working for you too and I’m taking notes on how to make it work from my boyfriend and from websites. We both like a clean house so that’s a plus. When time comes we’ll discuss who does what in terms of chores. I also told him we need a day that’s dedicated to just us and we that each night we go to bed happy. Meaning issues get solved that night! Thus far he has seen me at my worst so that’s not an issue (menstrual mishaps and all :|) Any other advice ladies ?? I’m taking all that I can get..

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  • Woof, this is a tough one. Having lived with a boyfriend-turned-husband in the past (I’m now the big D’d), the best advice I can give is just make a constant effort to be nice to the other person, even if it hurts. The longer you live together the harder it’s going to be, and the more work it will take to make sure that you’re still treating the other person with the respect they deserve.

    Your advice on making sure you don’t get sick of the other person is HUGE. It may sound like obvious advice, but it’s something I wish I paid more attention to earlier in life.

  • Haha I loved this my boyfriend and I moved in together about 7 months ago actually and I couldn’t agree more if you don’t get sick of them live with them! Im usually the one leaving to visit family and whenever I am gone I still miss him. Its not like a relief because Im around him all the time to have that time away, I do fine but that doesn’t mean I don’t miss him. Also I want to say “hallelujah” to your just because one of you is on reddit and the other is blogging and you are around each other doesn’t mean thats quality time you still need to romance and have dates and do things in order to be spending time together. I moved in with my boyfriend what some people would consider fast, after a little over our first year together but its going great!

  • this post really made me laugh. The first week I moved in with Phill I got a really bad stomach bug, and in the middle of the night I had to dash out of the bathroom to get him to shift THE BIGGEST SPIDER I HAVE EVER SEEN while shouting “quick I really need to be back in the bathroom!” what doesn’t kill you and all that 🙂

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