10 Reasons Why Living With Your Boyfriend Is Awesome

We tried to take a romantic picture and I fell off the swing. This is real life.
We tried to take a romantic picture and I fell off the swing. This is real life.

1. It’s way cheaper. We save $400 a month living together. Okay, I use the term “save” loosely. We spend $400 less on living expenses by living together. I’d love to say we save that for something important like a down payment on a house but really we just go out to eat a lot and hit up Target. We save a little bit of it but less than we should.

2. Chore splitting. I haven’t emptied a dishwasher since N and I moved in together. True story. I don’t do dishes. I cook dinner. I do laundry. I iron. No dishes for me. I loathe dishes.

3. You get to know each others quirks. I’m a bitch when I’m hungry. He takes the longest effing showers. I’m the worlds worst (best?) backseat driver. He cannot remember how to get places he’s been numerous times. I bite my cuticles. He picks at his ingrown hairs. The good and bad quirks come out in full force. If you still like each other after they’ve all surfaced, you’re probably in the clear.

4. Expand your knowledge. I know more about all sports and techy stuff than I ever intended to. I’ve become a better cook simply out of necessity and practice. N knows more about BB Cream and the Kardashians than he ever thought he would. Hey, I didn’t say all the knowledge was useful.

5. You learn to love the same stuff. Before N and I lived together, I had a $35 tv from Goodwill. N insisted that HD was completely necessary and now I am an HD snob. We watch the same TV shows. He bought a Honda because I have one and rave about it. We watch tech review videos and listen to podcasts. Stuff I never would have thought I would love, I now do. Same for him. It’s more fun this way.

6. Sharing is caring. Things I have stopped buying since we moved in together: deodorant, toothpaste, soap, and face wash. We started off buying our own face washes. But then one time, I forgot to buy mine and just used his. And then I did that forever. Ditto for the deodorant, toothpaste, and soap. Now that I think about it, this is only benefitting me. I can’t say I’m going to stop though.

7. You learn their family dynamics. I’m not saying that I eavesdrop when N talks to his family on the phone but I’m also not saying that I don’t. You can learn a lot about a person by how and how often they talk to their loved ones.

8. Use of the term “partner”. Am I a cop? A lesbian? Who knows? I just really love throwing this word around. We’ve lived together for a year and a half. We have a (dog) child together. Partner it is.

9. Your problems change, but so do your solutions.

10. It’s the ultimate test drive. Either one of us could take the car back to the dealership and decide not to buy. That’s just the fact of the matter. But we don’t, and we won’t. Some days it feels like we’re playing house. It’s a whole lot of damn fun.

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  • Love this post Nadine! Everything you said I found myself nodding my head to..LOVE LOVE LOVE!

  • #8 cracks me up! Also, I hope his deodorant isn’t too manly-scented.

  • I’ve lived with my fiance for 2 years. I was living 20 minute from him before we moved in (6 months after we met). It saved soooooo much money it’s ridiculous.

    It works and I totally believe in cohabitating together. Matthew told me a few months ago that he would never marry someone without living with them first. I know we already do, but I was surprised to hear him say that he strongly believes in it. I completely agree. It makes going into marriage much smoother. No surprises here! I do the laundry and clean the house, he does a lot of the cooking, manages our cars and stuff, and pays all the bills. We have made a system that really works and I love it. Wouldn’t have it any other way. We aren’t religious so religion and “living together in sin” is something we never thought about.

    Love living with my man! It’s the best <3

    Ginny
    http://www.buttergirldiaries.com

  • I love this! my boyfriend and I moved in with each other after 4 months of dating. I know, crazy right? But we’ve now been living together for 6 months and love it. I completely agree with this list, saving money, getting to know each others quirks (and loving them unconditionally), sharing with each other (which i agree, i probably benefit more from that than he does), splitting chores, etc. I love living with the boyfriend and it’s nice to know we are completely compatible with each other!

  • I’ve lived with my fiance for 5 years now and I wouldn’t change a thing. Plus, he does the dishes which I detest also!!!

  • Loved this! My boyfriend and I are close to moving in together (by close I mean in like 6-8 months) and a lot of people our age have such sour opinions about living with boyfriends, so it’s so nice to read something encouraging about it! Also I love the usage of the word partner, it just sounds so much more legit/accurate than “boyfriend.”

  • Yep, love #4! I know so much more (ok, maybe just a little) about random car stuff and electronics. Even though it bores me to tears, I make the effort to listen (mostly!). I also like “partner” – boyfriend sounds so casual, like a schoolday relic.

  • Aw love this post! My bf and I have recently started talking about living together and although I know it will be a major change I’m looking forward to it. Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Elizabeth
    http://glamcandyxo.blogspot.com

  • I love this post. The money saving is a huge plus and if I didn’t live with my boyfriend I think I might starve. He cooks while I get stuck cleaning the bathroom every single time.

  • Love this post! My husband and I lived together for 3 years before we got married. Everyone has their own opinions about living together before marriage, but I see it as one of the smartest things you can do! Our first year of marriage was wonderful, and I think it is because we worked out all our problems of living together before we got married. You really learn about a person when you see them all the time, and learn the living habits. Then you can decide if you want to “put up with them” before you commit your life to them. Plus there is something about knowing that either of you could leave, but you don’t that makes you closer!

  • I love this! Agreed on everything. I was so afraid my bf and I would end up annoying each other but we are the best roommates ever and it’s actually a lot of fun. 🙂

  • Brianne Bracco

    And test drive we did also. That’s how our Hangry term came into play too. When I am a little bitchy…he drops everything to get me food. He doesn’t want that smokey volcano to blow.

  • All these reasons are great but saving money is definitely the best perk (ya know, besides the obvious). I was paying nearly a grand a month for my one bedroom, now I pay less than half that.

  • I love this! I need to find somebody who does the dishes because I hate them more than anything else. And I always steal my boyfriend’s bathroom things. Some days I think that boys body wash smells so much better!

  • Ever since I got with now husband, we spent about every night with each other (when we were dating). It was kind of like we were living together, but not. It just worked for us. We officially moved into together, when we were engaged. I think it is great that you guys living together. One of my fave perks is saving money!!

  • I love how much y’all value your relationship together. Sure, y’all probably have issues but the way you talk (write) about your relationship gives me so much hope that there is someone out there for me! I love it.

  • I love this post!! I won’t lie it wasn’t all peas and carrots when I first moved in with my now husband. But now, when he works nights, I get so lonely. How did I do it before?!?!

    • the trouble is when you coactnt them it only causes yourself more pain, its like digging yourself a deeper grave and just makes it a lot harder to stay in control. You should stay in NC completely, there is hope but part of it is about becoming the person you once were. Moving on really is the start of getting someone back, you just have to focus on YOU right now and not the things you have no control over. Do things that make you desirable and valuable!

  • I totally agree with all of these! I loved living with my husband when we were still just bf/gf… So much more convenient and a great exercise in problem solving! (That sounds so much nicer than learning how to not piss each other off as much).

  • Loved this post!! It has definitely been such an experience living with my boyfriend…we for sure have so many more hobbies that we like to partake in together now!

  • Kim

    I was nodding my head to all of this. My bf and I moved in together after 4 months of dating (we just knew it was right) and haven’t looked backed since. My family as well as his family were very supportive. I didn’t actually meet his parents until after we moved in since they live a plane-ride away, about 2 months later, but it couldn’t have gone better! Living with your boyfriend is the ultimate arrangement. I’ve stopped watching a few of my “girly” shows and we have so many shows that we watch together now and I don’t miss those “girly shows” at all! There is only one show he will not watch with me and that is the Bachelor/Bachelorette but that is one show I will NOT stop watching. Thanks for the great post!

  • Haha! You’re hilarious and all of these are so, so true! First time reader over here, I’m trying to break the habit and comment more – cause everybody loves comments!
    You’re definitely going on my daily-blog-route-list girl 🙂
    I am so with you especially on #1, cause honestly – where does all that extra money go?? Even so much so that we just started a food budget. First week just passed and we blew it big time, we just like going out to eat too much!
    -Maggie

  • I’m so glad things are going so well for you guys! Living with a boyfriend is fun for sure. 🙂

  • Love love love this! We’ve lived together for 5 years and I wouldn’t have it any other way! There’s definitely an adjustment period at the beginning and I love that we got that out of the way before marriage. And that picture is hilarious.

    • yeah the suits look nice but the only reason we wish our byenriofds would wear them is because it looks like they have money im biased towards the nice fitted t with jeans or nothing at all!

  • I love this post! My boyfriend and I are going to move in together when he gets back from a temp job in another state, and I know it’s the right thing to do- for all the above reasons! Glad it’s working out so well for you guys!

    Kaitlin
    http://www.teaandsequins.com

  • I definitely agree with all of these! I lived with my now husband while we were dating and engaged. I think it made a world of difference with our relationship – in a good way.

  • “Am I a cop? A Lesbian?” I die. Too damn funny. And so true!!

  • #5 is so true- we have a nice, large (and expensive) TV because my boyfriend insisted, but I’m so glad I let him dot that part. And that photo is adorable!

  • I could not agree more with this entire post! Living with my BF has defiently improved our relationship!

  • This is so awesome, I can not wait until I get to this point!

    xx
    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

  • Amen SISTA! I was cracking up at #3! I moved in with my boyfriend in June 2012 & haven’t looked back since. We have learned SO MUCH about our relationship, quirks, families & now refer to each other as fiancé/fiancee… pretty sweet!

    xx
    Here&Now

  • Love your Blog and all that you say….you are so honest and quite witty!

  • Am I a cop? A lesbian?… Hilarious.

  • Samantha

    LOVE. When Z and I moved into together after we got married, we had only really been physically together a few months. He left for basic and then we got married when he graduated. Talk about shock! But it’s super fun and I am SO with you on the dishes. I don’t have the patience for that… at all.

  • I’m the worlds worst (best?) backseat driver. He cannot remember how to get places he’s been numerous times. — This is K and I ro a T! It boggles my mind how he forgets how to go someplace we’ve been countless times. Which of course leads to my side seat driving 🙂 Cohabitating is certainly interesting.

  • Katie (@TheStyleDunce)

    This is great. My boyfriend and I are living in my mom’s basement right now after moving together to Colorado and we haven’t killed each other yet so I guess we’ll be good at living together on our own too. Not sure I could use his deodorant or soap though–he always goes for the old spicey scents.

  • I lived with my now husband for 5 years before we got married. As a matter of fact, we purchased a home together before getting married…we kind of did things backwards. lol Our two little ass dogs own us too. I just love Archie’s human-like facial expressions! Hooray for human-dogs! We love them here too! 🙂
    Carla @ Love Cartista

  • I love this, and totally agree! When Bryan and I bought a house together we had a lot of people telling us we were crazy (we lived together before that), but it was seriously the best decision ever. Neither of us would have been able to afford buying a house if we didn’t do it together, and I know I wouldn’t be able to furnish, decorate, and clean a house all by myself.

    SarahChristine

  • Such a fun post and I love the picture of you two gives a great inside look on how it is probably everyday when you guys are together.

  • Loved reading this! It’s so true. Living with Andrew has been the best thing for our relationship! We’re so much stronger and have learned so much about each other. Not having to take out the trash is an added bonus! Plus, we couldn’t afford to live in SF on our own, splitting bills is a big help. Also, I often have to apologize for being “Hangry” to Andrew…he says he is going to carry snacks for me to make sure it doesn’t get to that point! haha

  • i thought of the same thing. beside, it lets you practice your patience too, i think.

  • I had so much fun reading this! I’ve lived with my boyfriend for 4.5 years and wouldn’t change it for the world 😀

  • One of my professors called her husband her partner for the longest time. I couldn’t tell if she was lesbian or what. Then one day, she was talking about how her husband got her to like this weird sea weed cracker thing and I was like OHHHH. So she isn’t lesbian.

    Not that I have anything against it. I was just incredibly confused.

  • This post is TOO GOOD. I’ve been reading your blog for a few months now and I love all your posts! I especially related to #1 on the list – Target and spending money that isn’t rent money is totally our thing! I probably shouldn’t brag about that… But seeing as my boyfriend has a pretty large family and we’d been dating for over a year before we moved in together, I felt pretty good about #3 and #7. Love your list though! Keep up the hilarious (and very true) work, Nadine! 🙂

  • Kelsey

    This was really interesting to read! What about the emotional side though? There is something to be said about the sacred nature of intimacy and sharing that moment with your spouse rather than multiple people. I’m curious what your thought are on that? Would you condone living together with multiple people or just that one special someone who you plan on marrying down the road? Im curious! 🙂

    • Nadine

      N is the only significant other that I have lived with, although I had male and female roommates in the past. I would not have moved in with N if I didn’t think we were going to get married and after living together for over a year, I am still certain that we will get married. I don’t know that people really do move in with significant others thinking that it will just be casual. It’s a big step. I just think it doesn’t work out for everyone.

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  • I soooo agree. Especially with partner. It’s cute and funny.

  • I am SO happy you brought up Partner. That’s what I call my boyfriend all of the time and my friends and family think it’s ridiculous! But he is my partner through thick and thin, so why not call him that?!?

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